"An always daringly incendiary brand of queer cabaret." –Philly Weekly

I just don't know how
to be gay anymore


images c/o plate 3 photography

From Judy and Liza to Mommie Dearest, a show exploring and exploding what it means to be gay.

Pig Iron Theater Company’s Dito Van Reigersberg and the Bearded Ladies’ John Jarboe delve heel-first into gay male iconography in My Dinner with Dito: A How to Be Gay Cabaret.

A musical gay dinner in courses, this piece, which premiered at the Wilma Theater in the summer of 2013, asks who gay men are, who we have been, and what we are losing or might lose as we approach assimilation.

production information


John Jarboe John

Dito van Reigersberg Dito

Sarah Gliko Judy


Heath Allen Music Director/Composer/Pianist

Ben Diamond Drums


K. Elizabeth Stevens Director

Annie Halliday Stage Manager

Oona Curley Set Design

Doug Greene Props Design

Rebecca Kanach Costume Design

Sally Ollove Dramaturg

Daniel Perelstein Sound Design

Robin Stamey Lighting Design

Mike Troncone Technical Director


– 3 performers

– 2 musicians (piano, percussion)

– Technical requirements: minimal

Note: This touring production requires on-site kitchen access or catering.

Contact the Bearded Ladies for a complete technical rider.